Comments on: Doing Grief

By: Hayriye

Hayriye — Fri, 12 Jun 2015 18:54:46 +0000

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By: The Spin CycleThe Survivor | The Spin Cycle

The Spin CycleThe Survivor | The Spin Cycle — Thu, 09 Jan 2014 10:04:04 +0000

[...] I did wither a bit this fall. There was the loss of my sweet friend, followed by a series of sucker punches delivered by Life that left me almost literally gasping for [...]

By: Dawn

Dawn — Thu, 28 Nov 2013 05:51:12 +0000

Sorry to hear of your friend. It’s so hard to be confronted with a life cut short with the death of family, friend, and even a reminder of our own mortality.
How do I grieve? Whatever I say may just cover the tip of the iceberg. The biggest loss for me, too, was when my mom died from cancer. Somehow we get through it, out of necessity, maybe just going through the motions until it hits you. Faith helped me through, and the hope of being reunited in Heaven someday, although it still seems so far away. I reminded myself it could have been worse- at least I had time to say goodbye, at least I had her into my 30′s, she was there for my wedding and my 1st baby, whereas some lost their parent when they were young…my heart goes out to you losing your mother when you were a teenager.
I still think about all that she’s missing out on, sad she didn’t get to see my kids grow up and they never knew her, and wish she were here. Still want to pick up the phone and ask her recipe advice or tell her about something cute the kids said.

I have shared “THE DASH” poem with many people. It is a beautiful poem, set to scenery and music at http://www.thedashmovie.com (or google search “the dash movie”). Helps to remember how they impacted our life, and also inspiring to make the most of our lives, as we don’t know when our time will be.

Time helps to heal, but the void will always be there. Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you, and you can be thankful that your lives intersected.

By: Robbie

Robbie — Sun, 15 Sep 2013 17:18:28 +0000

I’m sorry for your loss. There’s no timeline for grief.

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Wed, 04 Sep 2013 08:20:39 +0000

I have no words.
You are just a beautiful soul.
We all deal with pain in different ways. If it helps to curl your hair up and spritz it with so much hairspray that you kill at least 2555 species of rainforest frogs, then do it.
Know that I am here for you…email me if you need to vent, chat, tell me that my thighs looked great in those pants…awkward…
xoxoxo

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 03 Sep 2013 12:40:37 +0000

Hi Sue I’ve had a similar way of dealing with grief. I need to do it on my own time. Removing external distractions and commitments helps. Sorry for your loss, your friend was truly loved and that’s what matters most.

By: Kim@Co-Pilot Mom

Kim@Co-Pilot Mom — Sun, 01 Sep 2013 13:26:53 +0000

So sorry for the loss of your friend, Sue. My grief is a process of stages as I try to wrap my head around what has happened. Bittersweet memories make me smile through tears, and the sense of loss becomes very present at times.
Take the time you need; we will be here when you return.

By: Naked Girl in a Dress

Naked Girl in a Dress — Sun, 01 Sep 2013 12:16:03 +0000

Sue, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. It is good you know what you need to do right now–what is best for you. Take the time you need. We will all be awaiting your return.

By: Kerry Ann @Vinobaby's Voice

Kerry Ann @Vinobaby's Voice — Fri, 30 Aug 2013 12:03:31 +0000

I am so sorry to read of the loss of your friend. You are spot on–we all handle grief in our own ways–some extremely publicly, some cowering under the covers. We do what we need to do. You do what you need to do. We’ll be around if you need anything. Cheers to fine memories of your friend.

By: catherine gacad

catherine gacad — Fri, 30 Aug 2013 05:34:30 +0000

i am so sorry for your loss. take all the time that you need. my grief, i imagine, is much like anyone else’s. it goes in waves. so sometimes it’s like i can’t stop crying, then very suddenly i am focused on something else, potentially having a good time and laughing.